One of my New Year’s resolutions is to be more mindful. Oftentimes I feel that I am not present with myself, and overall I know I need to do better about putting myself first and blocking out unnecessary noise. Ever since I made these four changes to my life, I noticed a big difference in how I feel about myself. Here’s what I have been doing.
Leave your electronics in another room when you sleep.
When my alarm would go off on my phone, the first thing I always did was turn it off and open either Instagram or Facebook and most times get mad at something on there. Or, if I posted to Instagram the night before, my brain would immediately crave seeing how many more likes I got while I was sleeping. I know, I sound crazy. The moment I decided to leave my phone outside of my bedroom and use an old-fashioned alarm clock instead (who even has those anymore?), I felt anxious. What if I don’t hear the alarm? What if I forget to turn it on? What if someone calls or texts me and it’s urgent? Girl, no. Ever since I’ve removed my phone from my bedroom, I feel like I can sleep better and more peacefully. I was also guilty of scrolling through my phone before bed, and I read somewhere that the backlight from your phone can disrupt the quality of sleep you have, and now I notice a huge improvement in how I feel when I wake up.
My ideal morning consists of waking up without looking at my phone, drinking a whole bottle of water, and meditating for at least 10 minutes. I never understood what a difference meditating for even 10 minutes could make, but wow it is powerful. Ever since I started doing this, I’ve noticed I’ve been able to focus more on what I have to get done, and even feel like I can do a better job at ignoring people I don’t like or rude comments. It’s 10 minutes of quiet I have to block the rest of the world out and focus on me. My goal is to be more consistent with it and be able to practice it every day.
Find a calming scent.
Ever since I moved across the country, I learned that I really love the scent of lavender. I use the Epsom Lavender bath salts and have a L’Occitane lavender hand cream, and I’m on the hunt for more. I can’t get enough of it because the scent is soothing and calming. Other aromatherapy scents out there include like jasmine or peppermint, and I highly recommend just finding something you enjoy smelling that either calms you down or relaxes you. It’s a great way to relieve stress and make you happy.
Use social media less.
I love doing social media in a professional setting, but truthfully I get such anxiety managing it in my personal life. I’m sure I’m not the only one who feels this way, but it’s nerve-racking to reach a certain number of likes or see people you don’t like showing off, and quite frankly it’s just exhausting to keep up with but you don’t want to go completely off the grid because you still want to know what’s going on. My solution has been to post less and stay off of the app as much as I can. Once I see something that bothers me, I close out of it. I know there are options to limit yourself with functions like Screen Time on iPhones, but I’m not ready to see the truth of how much time I spend on those apps let alone my phone (I can’t help it, I play games on my phone to destress!). If you’re feeling overwhelmed on social media, just take a step back and log out for a few days. Your sanity and eyes/neck/fingers/hands will thank you.